Readers say Evelyn should hold a serious talk with Victor
Evelyn is madly in love with Victor
and they have plans to get married before the end of the year but one
thing has been on her mind all the time she has dated Victor.
Despite
that he has everything every woman would kill for, Victor has insisted
on no sex before marriage and this has put Evelyn on edge.
She
does not want to go into a marriage where her husband would not be able
to satisfy her in bed or even not able to get her pregnant.
Read her story here:
"My
name is Evelyn, a 26-year-old lady working in Lagos State. I have been
in a relationship with Victor for over eight months now and we are
planning to get married before the end of this year.
We
have done our introduction and everything is set for the marriage while
we are just waiting for the date that has been agreed to by both
families.
Victor is the kind of
man any woman would want to live with for the rest of her life. Apart
from having a very good and secure job, Victor is very handsome, tall,
hunky and very generous.
Victor
loves me so much and I am mad about him but I have a morbid fear of
getting married to him due to his stance of not having sex before
marriage. It is not as if Victor is one strong born again Christian or a
firm believer in the Bible but right from the day we met, he had told
me he was not crazy about sex.
Initially,
I thought he just said what most men say to get a man and would not
wait to have her in their beds. But my man has kept to his word and this
scares me.
I am not saying that
I am a sex freak or a nymphomaniac but I have heard stories where women
get married without having sex only to find out that the husband is
either weak in bed or impotent.
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A friend also told me how her sister's husband turned out to be gay and just wanted to get married to please his family.
I
am a young woman and like most women, sex means much to me and I don't
think I can cope with a man who cannot satisfy me in bed especially my
husband.
I have tried every
means to seduce Victor but whenever he senses that I am going too far,
he will put a stop to anything I do to him. One thing I have noticed
conspicuously is that no matter how much I arouse him, Victor hardly
gets an erection and whenever he does, he would quickly switch his mind
off sex.
I walk about the house
naked anytime I go to spend some time with him; I sleep naked and even
go into the bathroom naked whenever he is taking his bath but he has
refused to be moved.
I
have a lovely body with the right curves and I remember my past
boyfriends could not wait to have sex with me but with Victor, the
reverse is the case.
Please, I need your advice because I would not want a situation where I would get married and start cheating on my husband.
Evelyn."
The teaser for the day was:
What would you advise Evelyn to do?
How Nigeria voted:
Evelyn should be happy that Victor is not crazy about sex - 19%
Evelyn should just bear with the situation - 5%
Evelyn should call off the wedding - 3%
Evelyn should have a heart to heart talk with Victor on the issue - 74%
How would you vote here?
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